NickM

If you're only looking to host for you and your friends you can get a server as small as a four person one from Nitrado for as cheap as $5.20 a month. They're not as user friendly for someone new to running their own server as most other companies, but there's plenty of resources on the forums here that it can be done easy enough.

Ok original pic was about aiatp lite but that one now means somethings wrong with your mas files. Double check through A3Launcher (Assuming it's what you're using since the ss of the servers is the a3Launcher's ui) that your mods aren't corrupted. If the server's showing up on the Launcher that means it's using the versions of the mods the launcher offers. Can you connect to other servers that use the mas weapons and vehicle packs from the launcher?

You don't need both terrain packs. They're the same thing just different resolutions. Dunno what server you're trying to join but try it with just the non lite one activated.